I’m about ready to tun in for the night and wanted to just remind you of the simple things in life that we have forgotten while with the psychopath/narcissist.
How many of you were subjected to a ton of sex…against your will? Coerced or manipulated to do it so he’d shut the hell up already and let you SLEEP?
How many of you laid awake at night because you just finished a major argument with the psychopath/narcissist? And just as you’re about to fall asleep from exhaustion, he awakens you to fight some more? Do you ever wonder where these disordered get their energy?
Sex with psychopaths is overrated. As is sex in general. Sleep is largely underrated but completely essential when we are out of the relationship.
Some of us may not have slept for months of years regularly due to the stress of living day to day with him. I remember feeling constantly anxious, walking on eggshells, wondering what the next day of abuse would bring and what kind…
Just as your minds and hearts need to recover, so do your bodies. It is SO NICE to get into bed with my wiener dog (who incidentally takes up half the bed), and just cozy in and SLEEP. Deep REM sleep is restorative. Our bodies heal while we sleep.
With a psychopath, sleep is a novelty. His keeping us awake, creates the exhaustion he wants as well as low resistance to fighting him no mater what he wants.
Just one of the simple pleasures in life to enjoy. When you can’t sleep, try to remember how anxious, angry or sad you felt with this monster in your bed. And how quiet and peaceful it is now that he is not. It’s the best time to clear your thoughts, meditate and do your breathing exercises.
Being single and alone in your bed at night, is better than a psychopath plotting his next ‘revenge” against you while lying in the same space with you.
Learn to feel the freedom of peace.
Onward and upward.